How to Fix a Broken Marriage: Steps to Bring the Pieces Together and Why You Should Try Again
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Remember your vows: For better or worse, in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer—those vows were made with the intention of facing life’s challenges together.
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Reflect on why you married your partner: Was it for love or for money?
- If it was for love, remember that everyone and everything deserves a second chance. Love especially deserves that effort.
- If it was for money, it’s time to reflect on yourself. Why did money matter? Did it truly bring you happiness? In what ways?
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Rediscover your partner: Start a 6-month journal. Every day, write down the little things you love about your partner. On another page, note the things that bother you. This will help you gain clarity on both your affection and frustrations.
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Falling in love again: It’s possible to fall in love with your partner all over again—or perhaps for the first time, with new eyes.
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Start small: In your journal, identify small things you can forgive today, tomorrow, and in the days ahead. Forgiveness, even in small doses, helps heal resentment.
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Grow the love: Begin writing about the small things that make you appreciate your partner. Let that appreciation grow into love.
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Show your love: Gradually show your partner that you’re less angry, and that you're giving them love in the ways you know how. Also, think of new ways to express love. Be creative and intentional.
By taking these steps, you can work towards mending the cracks in your marriage and rediscovering the bond that brought you together in the first place.