Why Fear is Killing My Life: What to Do to Overcome It and How to Master It
- Start a journal – Dedicate a separate page to each fear you have.
- Face each fear one by one – When fear arises, write down the logic behind it. What exactly are you afraid of?
- Fear of the future – If your fear is about tomorrow (e.g., “I’m afraid I won’t pass my exam”), remember that tomorrow isn’t real yet. It hasn’t happened, so there’s no reason for fear right now.
- Fear of the past – If your fear is rooted in the past (e.g., “I was hurt in my last relationship, and I’m afraid it will happen again”), remind yourself that the past doesn’t dictate the present, and the future isn’t real yet.
- Apply logic – Each time fear arises, analyze it logically. Ask yourself if the fear is justified or real.
- Fear is intangible – When you define fear, you’ll realize it has no physical substance.
- Think before expressing fear – Take a moment to reflect before you say, “I’m afraid.” This will help you gain control.
- Practice regularly – Every time you’re about to express fear, pause and consider whether it’s real.
- Be patient with yourself – Habits are hard to break, and overcoming fear takes time, depending on how deeply rooted the fear is.
- Reflect on your childhood – Try to remember if something in your childhood caused deep fear. This can help you understand where your fears come from.